I went to a church service that advertises itself as an emergent service. Their marketing is geared toward the upper high school and 20 something crowd. The nice lady on the phone said it was really for the youth group, and asked me if emergent was "like another denomination, like Presbyterian"? (Isn't emergent something you do instead of being something you are?) I went to the service anyway.
Not wanting to go alone, I waited in the car for about 8 minutes waiting for the rest of my group to arrive. I watched as a lot nicely dressed families got out of their cars and went right (from my vantage point) into the "real" church. I watched as a few blue-jeaned kids went left toward the building that hosted this special service. It struck me as odd, this two churches on the same-property-but-at-opposite-ends-of-it idea. Are we catering to special interest groups within the church body? Is that good? Is that bad? Is it so far from the Acts church, meeting in all sorts of people's houses? Is it out of my comfort zone because it is wrong or because it is different?
Eventually, I went inside, by myself (no reflection on those I was waiting for, I have this nasty habit of being way too early). The lights were dim and there were candles. It smelled kinda nice, not like carpet shampoo or the stale smell of the last potluck meal. My favorite thing was the coffee. Real coffee, not the kind that we find in the fellowship hall of the typical suburban church, but real coffee, with real flavored creamers. Paper cups-not plastic, which will be here for the next 500 years after I spend my 10 minutes with it. Nice lids too, for the general idiot like me who likes to spill theirs (I spilled mine anyway, with the lid on!). They had tea, and brewed hot chocolate and donuts and danishes oh my.
The praise band played a few songs, pretty good band, vocals were a little too low for the instruments but better than the church I go to. One of the pastors came right up, stuck out his hand and made introductions. Having been primed by the nice lady on the phone, went right into question mode: How long have you been doing this? Why do you call it emergent? Who is it geared for? Who attends? The summary is that they aren't emergent in the way that people who are emergent would consider themselves emergent. They are geared for younger Christians who are looking to "do" church differently. They consider themselves experimentally experiential, trying new things. It is part of the youth group, but they do get adults and some families. Next time I'll ask how they define emergent, what their long term plan is, and if they aren't emergent, why do they use the name?
Everyone milled around. Kids that I knew came up and said hi. The rest of my party arrived. We looked at the bulletin, picked some seats (the kind you sit on, not with). Other than the ministers, only one other adult came up to say hi, and I knew her from elsewhere. The majority of attendees were high school kids, but we weren't the only adults.
They did announcements. Then the talk, on Philemon. It was really good. The topic was forgiveness, and slaves to holding a grudge to becoming free in forgiveness. The floor was opened to the people, to answer questions and ask a few, very interactive. Everyone continued drinking their coffee, including the speakers. I like that, informal, less structure, comfortable, just don't worship the coffee. If this had been my current church, the sermon would have consisted of a 3 point sermon on how God forgives us, why we would forgive and the benefits of forgiving. Not here. This was a down and dirty teaching of how to forgive, including personal stories from the leaders of the situations they find themselves in. It is hard to forgive, there are instructions on how to reconcile and they aren't fair because it is up to the person who has been wronged to fix it. Sometimes forgiveness is something that must be given each and every day. And lastly, that we don't forget, don't have to forget, but need to make a conscious decision to go on anyway.
There were some meditation portions, sit quietly and think about how this impacts you. Then we had "worship" and sang a song. There was a prayer, and some more speaking about the topic. Not in an arrogant way (the way that tells God specifically what he is to come down and do to us) but in a truly humble and beseeching manner, full of silence. Then we had some more "worship" and sang a few more songs. I put the word worship in quotes because of the way it was said. Like worship only happens when we sing.
The songs were good, the band was good, although they looked like poster children for emergent. I have to say that I really like the music. I liked the fact that the leader, who looked like he was in high school, really led this group, and they followed him. It was obvious that the music selection was changed on the fly to fit the mood and moment but the band, and more importantly, the PowerPoint person picked right up and went with it.
The ending was a little abrupt, but is that because I am used to the traditional dismissal of the churches? Once, a few years ago, we had a service where the speaker ended with: "well, that's all I've got". Nothing is wrong with it, but it isn't what I am used to.
They had communion. You had to get up and walk to a side table and just eat and drink (I think white bread and grape juice). Each person could decide when to get up or if to go at all, it was VERY informal. I didn't go, I am still working out why. My personality is such that I always feel like people are watching me, and my mind was more focused on the differences between usual services and this one, and therefore not really right for communion. Is taking communion supposed to be such a holy and sacred experience or have we made is so? Are we any closer to God at that moment than when we are singing, or praying or meditating?
Overall, it seemed just like a general session from a Youth Specialties Youth Ministry Convention that was smaller in scale. I like that. I liked the practical application of the message, I liked having the chance to talk back (although I didn't). It was not all about the great speaker imparting his wisdom to me. It felt like we were all on this great spiritual journey together even though we may be at different points on the road. I wish it wasn't marketed to teens and 20somethings. Why is that? Is that they only ones they think will go or is that who goes because that's who is expected? It is difficult for people with small children to go because the nursery and Sunday school rooms are at the opposite end of the campus and across the road. Should I be concerned that is is only young people attending - implying that this kind of service is for only immature Christians? Or is it more like Joshua and Caleb returning from the promised land and saying "look what we have seen, look what God can give us, we need to go there" in the face of the older, more mature and more fearful people, who see only the change in what is and has been?
I would like to go to a church that is more holistic than this one. The young people who go there can find fellowship in the other activities geared for their age. Those of us in our 30s or above were welcome to be there, but were not their focus. Unfortunately, real emergent churches are not in this area. We would have to go into New York City or down to Princeton to go to one (if I'm wrong and you've got one in North Jersey let me know). I don't have a conclusion, or a nice winding up quote. Sorry, but that's all folks!
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